Figuring out dinner plans can be contentious in the Burak household, writes the popular Ann Arbor-based Catholic speaker and writer, Pete Burak, pictured. Everyone has an opinion, often expressed after an initial response of, “I don’t care, whatever you want.” The options seem limitless due to Mom’s crockpot wizardry, Dad’s knack for creating delicious breakfast-for-dinner, and the kids seemingly endless desire for cheeseburgers. Assuming we can figure out what to eat, then we have the endless options for after-dinner playtime, followed by screen time choices, before choosing from the plethora of children’s books for bedtime.
We all are faced with multiple choices each day. Sometimes we fall victim to the dreaded “decision fatigue” where we either stress too much over picking the “right” thing or we throw up our hands and refuse to choose anything.
Decision fatigue can even creep into our spiritual lives. We deeply want to do the Lord’s will but perhaps we don’t know exactly how to use the gifts God has given us in a way that best furthers his plan for our lives. When considering both the larger questions, such as our vocation, as well as smaller choices, such as our weekly tithe, we have to be careful not to fall into what I call “discernment paralysis.” Let’s keep a few things in mind as we wrestle with fulfilling God’s plan for our lives:
1. KEEP IT SIMPLE: We know it is never God’s will for us to sin, so let’s begin with things we know God is asking us to do based on the clear teachings of Jesus. We know we are called to study Scripture, pray persistently, forgive others, love our neighbor, support each other, share the Good News, love our spouses and children, for starters. If we made a list of non-negotiable things God wants us to do, it’s actually pretty long and it would make for a remarkably good life if we simply just lived those truths.
2. TAKE BABY STEPS OF OBEDIENCE: When we’re faithful in little things, it will be easier to be faithful in big things. As we learn to walk in God’s will, more of his plans will be revealed. God rarely shows us the whole path, but he always reveals enough so we can take the next step.
3. SEEK GUIDANCE FROM TRUSTED FRIENDS OR SPIRITUAL ADVISORS: Sometimes simply sharing what we are discerning will bring us clarity and sometimes the Lord will use another’s words to reveal God’s perspective. Following God’s will is essential to living as his disciple, so don’t be afraid to turn “decision fatigue” into action and step out in faith. Now, if you have any original meal ideas for a family of seven, I’d be grateful!
* Pete Burak is the vice president of Renewal Ministries. He has a master’s degree in theology, and is a frequent speaker at events for youth and young adults.